Stepmom considers kicking out 17-year-old, gets offended when she decides to leave home herself: 'I stood up for myself'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Jul 6, 2026 1:15 PM EDT

Living with unsupportive parents is tough for any teen.

A stable home environment is one of the most important things that anybody can have growing up, and sadly, it is often treated more as a privilege than a right. For one reason or another, plenty of parents and guardians are incapable or unwilling to give kids the support that they need to thrive.

Understandably, anyone who finds themselves in this kind of situation usually wants to get out of it as soon as they are independent enough to do so. Few people want to stay that long in a place where they do not feel welcome, no matter how young they are. It is only natural to seek freedom from such an environment. 

At the same time, leaving behind a home and family that are not as supportive as they should be isn't always easy. You need some place to go and to be prepared for the ways in which those who are being left behind may react. Leaving behind the family home is a whole process even in the best of circumstances, so doing it when you are in a far less comfortable position is a whole other matter altogether.

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  • A teenage girl sits on a couch with her head in her hands
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    A teenage girl sits on a couch with her head in her hands

  • A young woman was fed up with the treatment that she faced in the home of her dad and stepmom. After an argument that she felt had been unnecessary, her sister told her that she had overheard the parents discussing whether she should be asked to leave the house.

    In response, the 17-year-old decided that the better decision was to live with her mom instead. However, her dad and stepmom refused to let her collect her belongings from their house, claiming that she was not in the right state of mind to make such a decision. She looked for some advice.

  • Parents discuss kicking me out, then get upset when I willingly try to leave...

    i am a 17f, turning 18 in a few days. my dad is 40m, step mom is 39f, and my biological mother is 37f.
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  • i never had a good relationship with my step mom. she was very angry a lot over things that i never saw as a huge issue, or she would get angry with things my mother said, and would take it out on me. i knew i was not the favorite, and i was okay with it. they fought for custody an my mom fought back. they started telling me that my
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  • mom was manipulating me into not wanting to see them, and i believed it since i was just a child. now that i'm older, i don't think its true.
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  • my mom hasn't been the best either, but she has been working on herself to get better for me. on friday, i stood up for myself when my step mom started talking about things that did not matter and happened years ago (talking about how clothes she purchased should go to my sister instead of my cousin at my
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  • moms)... she was upset that i "did not agree that was right" when i never did say that or the opposite. i did let her know that was not the case and moved on.
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  • A teenage girl sits on a couch with her head in her hands, an older woman looking displeased beside her
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    A teenage girl sits on a couch with her head in her hands, an older woman looking displeased beside her

  • i added on, that i was going to try to drive back from my vacation to get to my step mom's birthday, which was accidentally scheduled over my step moms birthday, and she freaked out and left. i understood because it was her birthday and all, but didn't think she should've taken it out on me. i left to go to my moms minutes after.
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  • i worked that saturday and my sister came in after a parade and told me that she had overheard my step mom talking to my dad on the phone about kicking me out. i—already not feeling safe to go back due to her anger— decided to stay home with my mom instead of going with them to my grandparents house because i did not want to cause a scene with my hysterical crying.
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  • i then decided that i was going to leave since they did not want me at the house anymore, and i would just love in with my mom. i texted them letting them know i was going to get my stuff from their house. when i arrived, they were not home and had removed the key they left out for me to get in, and
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  • locked all the doors. i was texted after about how i was "not in a good mental state of mind, and i would never do this." and that "all the claims are false" until i gave them proof of what she had said and she took it back. saying that i was not mentally stable to stay there, and they were considering it.
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  • i asked for my things back and they refused once more, then added that they would be filing charges against money that i had accidentally spent with their card instead of my own. and also added on they would not be opening the door to me or a police officer.
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  • i have clothes, shoes, safe keeps, makeup that i have bought, and that my mom has bought for me and they are not allowing me to get it. i have a cat there that was a gift to me in 2020 that my step mom did purchase for, but said i was taking once i moved out that they are refusing to give as well.
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  • A teenage girl sits on a couch with her hands to her mouth, looking worried
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    A teenage girl sits on a couch with her hands to her mouth, looking worried

  • Vibin0212 NTA. Talk to a police officer to see if there's anything you can legally do over your items.
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  • sleep0077 NTA. They talked about kicking you out, then got upset when you chose to leave on your own. Refusing to let you collect your belongings and threatening police over an honest mistake only makes their behavior worse. Get
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  • your mom involved and, if needed, ask local law enforcement for a civil standby to retrieve your property.
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  • Alyssa 9876 What stands out to me is that a 17 yr old has not been given a key to the house!!!
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  • My kids all had a house key from around 12/13 as they were coming home from high school on their own so we always wanted to ensure if we were out for whatever reason they could get into the house.
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  • KindlyAnything 3000 Just pretend you're coming home and leave at the first opportunity, make sure you have essentials like your birth certificate if it's there rather than at your mom's, I'm so sorry you've been delt such a sh hand in the parents and step parents department. Hang in there
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